Throughout my life I have encountered the chance to experience position of being a leader. I have experience democratic leaderships through playing on a high school football team, being apart of groups in college for class presentations, being a youth leader in my church, and also being apart of a family. I have gain important qualities of being a good leader through these experiences. Some of valuable leaderships traits that I obtained and strengthened are: how to be a team player, to be a better listener, to have more patience, to be not afraid of constructive criticism, to be outspoken, and to be a problem solver. Even though I have gained a lot, I still have more things to learn to become a better leader such as being more assertive, being more disciplined, becoming a better public speaker, and learn how to be realistic and not too optimistic.
Playing sports in high school gave me the opportunity to play on both losing and winning teams. This has given me a different perspective of looking at things. I now realize that even if you fail or lose that is no reason to give up, you still have to get right back up. Just realize your mistakes and errors and prepare more yourself to benefit the team. When you come back the next time, be mentally and physically prepared, and ready to meet the next challenge. When youths and adults fail at something in their life, they automatically think that they cannot do it, and finally they give up. By listening to my peers, and by learning from my mistakes I have overcame my obstacles. Through this I have became a democratic leader.
In the classes where I had to be apart of a group to do projects, I try to take the initiative to encourage people to speak up and give ideas to the group and brainstorm to come up with ways that help the group to achieve our goals. In these situations I use my charismatic leadership qualities to get things going. Most of the time I would be the problem solver and divide the workload with the members in our group. I would get everyone’s phone number so I can schedule meeting times to coordinate together the work we have done at that time. I consider myself to be an outspoken person so I usually attempt to get the group to interact and that helps other people to speak up and give ideas.
Being a youth leader at my church helped me to become a better leader because it help build my patience because some of the young kids I taught do not understand everything I teach. I had to find ways to get kids to understand the bible stories so had to find what games the kids liked to play and what they disliked. By their reaction and feedback I get from them by playing the various games I started to recognize tactics of how I could teach them.
One trait where I need strengthening is being more assertive. One distinctive feature about my personality is that I am too friendly to people. In most cases, when people approach me with things that are not done correctly or messed up something that belong to me, I am really passive. Someone has to do something really wrong or offend for me to get angry. When I see kids acting up in my youth group I am not assertive because I just want to avoid problems. I usually try to keep the peace. Many people have a problem with authority and when they are told what to do they tend to act differently.
Another trait where I definitely need more strengthening is being more disciplined in the activities that I am involved with. When I started college I noticed that I began developing bad habits. I would not study more than one day in advance for a test. I did not attend class everyday like I normally did in high school. I began to see that I was not following my workout routine since high school. I had moved out from my normally disciplined routine in my parent’s home to an environment where no one set any boundaries for me. Since I want to graduate on time I am trying better self-management strategies to discipline myself to higher standards and not continue live with those old same habits.
In my family I received a lot of the influential leadership qualities. I have two older brothers and a younger sister. I had to learn how to listen and look up to my older brothers and my parents as leaders at the same time. I had to apply the same older sibling role and behave like a leader to my younger sister as in the same manner that my brothers did towards me.
Out of both my parents, my most influential person on my leadership style is my mom. Of course, I gave my mom respect because she had legitimate power over me but I gave her more because she practiced authoritarian style of leadership in front of me. When my mom came from India to the United States, she had already received her degree in nursing at the age of twenty-one and started working. I remembered when my father was extremely sick when I was younger she took on two jobs to pay all the bills. She sent us to a private school in New York just so my brothers and I would not be exposed to the rough public schools. When my mother had the chance to spend time with us she had everything in order. She did not have time to waste so thing had to be done right. All at the same time my mother paid all the bills and took care of my dad and us. When my father passed away she still managed to keep everyone together and maintain her financial stature. She also managed to buy everyone cars, send all four of the kids in the family to colleges and maintain a nice household for us. She demonstrated so many outstanding leadership qualities by working as soon got out of college, working two jobs and maintaining a stable home environment for us. She was very assertive, task oriented woman, which sustained her to be an authoritarian leader.
There are many ways that I can take to improve my leadership skills. One way is to enroll in a master’s program after I graduate from UTA. The classes that are offered in these programs integrate the use leadership and management skills towards mock situations. These classes would help improve my public speaking skills and increase my technical skills. Knowing how to use correctly these traits can open many career opportunities for me and help to be successful in real world.
Another way I can improve my leadership skills is by going to leadership seminars or workshops. These workshops and seminars have people who are highly experienced in being a successful leader. I can get constructive criticism from my peers. It can be way that everyone involved benefits through information sharing. The seminars and workshops can help me expand my thinking skills, enhance my leadership skills, and help develop my goal setting skills. Just by having these attributes taught to us by these leaders and other peers itan give inspiration to be successful leaders.
Mentoring would be an excellent way to train my leadership skills. Learning from an expert, directly one on one would give me more inspiration and motivation to be a successful leader. A mentor can teach me the methods he personally uses to be effective, how he deal with problems and he could teach me what potential threats that I should look out for. Mentoring can open doors that improve my career path as well.
When I start my career I will try to be more outspoken and a better public speaker. I want people to notice me in an organization and when they do it can help me advance in my career path. Throughout my leadership experiences I have noticed that I have charismatic qualities that helps me lead better. These qualities help with my interpersonal skills as well by communicating better and it could help me in understanding other employees when I to obtain managing responsibilities in an organization.
Leading organizations in these times requires a blend of skill, knowledge and art. No longer can we rely solely on the technical skills and knowledge acquired from past experience, and just do it. Organizations and the environments they operate in are too complex. We have to include this other element, the art of how we relate to and engage others, if we want to be in a position to transform our organizations so they are more capable of responding to the uncertainties inherent in today’s business environment.